Tolerations are all around us things like clutter, life imbalance, poor health habits or inappropriate behaviors. These tolerations are a drain on life energy and distract you from living a vibrant healthy life full of energy and vitality.
At the root of our tolerations are a variety of limiting beliefs that immobilize us. For example: “I can’t take the time.” “That’s just the way it is.” “Don’t rock the boat—play it safe.” “Don’t complain or be too demanding.” “It’s not that important.” “I have no control.”
In order to have a personal life that is balanced and fulfilling, it is necessary to consciously evaluate and eliminate the tolerations standing in our way.
Here’s a list of my top 7 behaviors and situations to stop tolerating so that you can move towards greater inner peace and fulfillment.
1. Poor work/life balance. Working long hours again? It’s essential for health and happiness not to let work take priority over home and family. The world won’t end when you leave work at work. Do this for two solid weeks and see what a difference it makes.
2. Unkind words and behaviors. If you’ve been putting up with others calling you names and/or speaking down to you, consider ways to improve your self-esteem. Make a list of your strengths and use it as a basis for a self-nurturing affirmation. Review the list as needed for a reminder of your self-worth; then act and speak from that place.
3. Clutter. Do you live with someone who can’t seem to put stuff away? Or maybe you’ve created the clutter yourself? Take five minutes each day to put things in order. Along with a sense of peace, you’ll be amazed at the time saved when you don’t have to hunt around. If someone else is making the mess, have an honest heart-to-heart conversation, and come to an agreement about how to solve the problem.
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4. Nagging repairs. From garage doors and kitchen drawers that won’t close properly to that rattle in the car motor, the tolerations surrounding possessions can quickly turn into aggravation. Make it a habit to repair things quickly. You won’t have to tolerate these little nuisances, and you might be saving yourself from a much bigger problem (and bill) stemming from letting the little repairs go untended.
5. Lack of respect for time and energy. Have a friend who shows up late more often than not? A tardy coworker who holds up meetings? Communicate honestly with your friend about the impact of their lateness. Ask that meetings start on time—latecomers or not. Take inventory of your own awareness of others’ time and energy, and set boundaries for yourself, as needed.
6. Obligations. You might feel obligated to do things even if they conflict with your own desires. Don’t feel like attending the work party for a coworker that you never bonded with? That’s okay.
7. Poor wellness habits. Whether it’s lack of exercise or an unhealthy diet, don’t give in to the slippery slope of bad habits. Being proactive about your health now can prevent larger health issues in the future.
A simple way for you to start eliminating what annoys you is to write down what you are tolerating in each of the areas of your life: environment, health, work, money, relationship and so on. Next make your choices on what will you say “no” to? What you will say “Yes” to, based on your values and goals. Make sure the “yeses” really excite you.
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Affirm to yourself:
“I am unlimited in my own ability to create a balanced and fulfilled life.”
No Excuse Action Step:
Make a list of your top 3 tolerations. Choose what you will say no to. Choose what you will say yes to.
Remember, I am here for you, to support and believe in you.
I would love to hear about what actions you’ve taken towards omitting tolerations in your life.
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Tina Games
29 Jul 2015What a powerful reminder of the importance of boundary-setting! So much of what we tolerate comes from not setting clear boundaries for ourselves. ~ And in particular, this time of year – with the kids out of school for the summer, I’m constantly tested on my own boundaries. With no set schedule, like we have during the school year, things change from day-to-day, week-to-week — which gets wearing after awhile. I’m more exhausted during the summer than I am during the school year! ~ So thank you for reminding me about balance – and what it takes to bring myself back into it. :-)
Natasha Botkin
29 Jul 2015Beautiful article to remind us that we all need to be respected.
Andrea
29 Jul 2015Excellent list. I’ll be aggressively approaching the closet before bed tonight.
Patricia Young
29 Jul 2015Great list of things that we need to stop tolerating Josee! It is so important to set healthy boundaries and take care of ourselves. Thanks for sharing your wisdom! :)
Robyn
29 Jul 2015Thanks Josee .. a great reminder for me with resetting boundary’s in areas where I have been tolerating and leaking energy …
Bonnie Nussbaum
29 Jul 2015I agree with the slippery slope idea: letting things just slide opens the way for more and more things to slide. I think it’s wise to err on the side of feeling a bit petty. Bring things up sooner rather than later and balance will be more easily restored in your life.
Suzie Cheel
30 Jul 2015Great article Josee and reading through your list I know I am living a balanced list so much more than i used to , thank you ♡♡♡
Debra Reble
30 Jul 2015Great list Josee! I will be targeting these areas ASAP! Blessings
Melissa Rapoport
31 Jul 2015Such a great list! And, of course, everything is connected!